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  • Self-love, self-care

    Jul 02nd • Posted in love, personal

    One of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever received in life has surprisingly come from my mother. I dismissed it completely at the time, but that was probably because I was a teenager and didn’t really care to listen to whatever my mum said. Nowadays, it’s one of the things that I keep in my heart and mind with me at all times: “You can’t take care (or love) anyone, until you learn how to take care (and love) yourself!” She said this to me at a time in my life where I was more focused on my friendships and relationships with others, and I was letting my own life slip through my fingers.

    It’s something I always have to keep in mind because I am an extremely relational person. Unfortunately (or fortunately?), I am defined by my relationships with those around me. I care about and am extremely conscious of the relationships I have with others, nature, and God (or whatever deity/spiritual being I choose to worship.) But sometimes the relationship I have with myself falls in the cracks. I forget to love myself, I forget to take care of myself. It’s hard to remember when you’re so engulfed in other’s businesses and lives. I actually chatted with the Swede, and he and I ended up chatting about the concept of ‘self love’ and ‘self care’ (though in this case, we were definitely talking about sex and masturbation)– but the concept can apply to regular relationships and friendships. If someone isn’t taking care of you and your needs– you need to remember to take care of yourself. You are your own #1 in your own life. You should be your #1 priority! I forget about this a lot, but I’m glad I have people to remind me.

    Now that I’m dating someone, I forget to love and take care of myself, because I’m so concerned about taking care of him. Even when dating, you cannot rely on someone else to take over that duty for you because sometimes the other party doesn’t give what you need.

    So, I have a question: Have you been in a situation where you’ve compromised your self-love and self-care for another person? How did you remind yourself to love yourself and to take care of yourself?